How to Feel Enough? 5 Proven Ways To Make You Feel Absolutely Confident

“I’m not lovable.”

“I don’t have real friends, they don’t like me.”

“It’s better to be alone, no one understands me.”

“I suck at doing this even though I’ve put in so much effort.”

“Why did he/she leave me even after putting my whole heart out on the line? What did I do wrong?”

Does this sound familiar?

If you have these thoughts, I empathize with you, because I’ve been there. *hugs

Too many times, we allow the negativity of others to become a reality for ourselves.

Please understand that these thoughts are not to serve you, but to bring you down.

There is so much more in you and you’re the only you in the whole world! So there’s something special that is reserved only for you.

Here’s the catch: Believe in yourself, have grace for yourself.

Because if you don’t, who else will?

Cruel and discouraging thoughts come and go sometimes and it’s easy to succumb to them when you do not guard your heart and mind well.

So let us look at the 5 proven ways to overcome the thought of not being enough.

Tony Robbins, the great personal coach said that the real question you should ask is “Why am I feeling not good enough?”

We assign meaning to things.

Therefore, examining the reason why you assign the feeling of not being good enough will reveal the fears and desires.

It is a process you must face, to understand your true self.

The only way through is to breakthrough.

STEP 1: Face your fears.

Do not run away from your thoughts. Do not play the role of a victim. Face your fears boldly and ask yourself what made you feel not enough.

Many times you’ll trace down the root to being in fear or in anxiety. Take these thoughts into captivity and do not let them overrun your emotions and thoughts.

Here are some examples:

Fear of not measuring up / being a big letdown.
Feeling anxious.
Fear of losing control/power.
Fearful of uncertainties (i.e. not knowing what the future holds).

STEP 2: Focus on what you can do and where your goals are leading you to.

In life, you may be put into a situation whereby there’s nothing much that you can do about it.

Take time to recognize these situations and their effects but be focused on the areas in your life whereby you’re in control.

The pandemic has proven that some things are just out of your hands and your career might be in jeopardy. However, think of how you can serve instead of making a quick buck out of people could just save and help your career!

During the COVID-19 pandemic, I was working with an NGO and things are pretty rough as the company wasn’t doing so well financially.

I went into my default mode of thinking of the worst scenario that could happen and how my life is collapsing right in front of me and I was just being miserable.

When I realized these fears, I took these fears into captivity and thought of ways on how I could serve and create value for people.

People loved the extra value and service, and they signed more deals/ got more involved with the company! Long story short, I was praised by my boss, the company grew and I regained my confidence.

STEP 3: Create value and serve.

Life is so much more enjoyable when you start serving people with a pure heart and loving them for who they are. Add value to your service and be genuine about it.

I ensure you that people will notice and will love you (well, most people, there are always some imposters).

The feeling of not being enough is mostly focused on I, me and myself.

When you shift that inner thought and prioritize other people, you will find that you have the strength magically to deal with life’s worst situations.

STEP 4: Pen down your plans

Write down your personalized plan (with pen and paper) and record your thoughts. Ask yourself how you would like to grow and improve in certain areas and be committed to doing it!

Just because your partner ditched you for your looks doesn’t mean you’re not enough!

Look in the mirror truthfully and see yourself. You’re not just made out of skin and fats, you’re made out of a beautiful body, soul, and mind.

If you want to look healthy, sexy, and confident in your own skin, write down a plan on how you’d like to achieve it (i.e. work out every other day, drink 3L of water daily, etc.).

Grab a pen now and start writing 10 ideas on how to achieve your goals!

STEP 5: Look for like-minded friends.

Be wise in looking for the right person and friend to share what you’re going through.

Find accountability with people who share the same vision as you.

Talk to one another frequently (weekly/monthly) and check on each other’s progress, encourage one another (get a gym or jogging buddy).

With a friend, things are so much more fun!

I hope you are now armored and ready to combat your thoughts of not feeling enough because you are enough!

Always be truthful to yourself and your progress. Give yourself the permission to love yourself and to grow.

Most importantly, enjoy the process of growing and glowing instead of just striving for perfection.

You can make a difference by starting to work on yourself. #LiveLoveContribute

“Do not speak bad of yourself. For the inner warrior within yourself hears your words and is lessened by them.” Old Japanese Samurai Proverb.